Social media can affect a marriage and continue to play a negative role when it comes to divorce. It seems that some people share almost everything on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, but when it comes to social media there is such as thing as too much information- especially if you are going through a divorce.
While your activities may seem innocent enough to you, like showing off a new purchase or venting when you're frustrated, these posts can be used against you. Showing off a purchase can be used to damage your financial credibility. Venting can cause people to question your parenting ability.
What should you do if you are getting divorced? Consider these tips to protect your best interests.
Check your privacy settings
Privacy settings are an important part of social media participation. Those who do use social media sites during a divorce are always encouraged to keep post visibility confined to only those who need to see them. However, for many social media "friends" and true friends are two different things. It is common for mutual friends to pick sides, and it isn't always easy to tell which side a person is on. To be safe, only post things you are comfortable with all of your social media friends knowing and even talking about with others.
Don't create evidence for the other side
One common way that social media is used to collect legitimate evidence in a divorce is when someone is attempting to hide assets. Not only can investigators look at your social media activity, but they can look to see what your friends are saying about you. Even if the person who is actually going through a divorce is trying to be careful, it doesn't mean their friends are. Because the court is assigned with seeing that marital assets are distributed evenly or fairly, it's important to have an accurate picture of what those assets are. Any attempt to hide these assets is illegal.
Use social media wisely
While dropping out of the world of social media is one strategy a divorcing person might use, it may be useful to keep accounts open, but to stay quiet. Below are some steps to take to protect yourself during your divorce:
- Check the settings of the sites you've been participating in and disable the ability for others to tag you in photos. In some cases, you may even need to block or unfriend some people temporarily or permanently.
- Be careful about what you like and share, and watch what your spouse and their friends are posting from a distance, if you can.
- Be careful what you post online. Anything you put in writing from a social media post to a text message, to an email can be presented as evidence.
- Save any form of communication with your spouse or their family if you think it may affect your divorce.
- Discuss any important issues over the phone or in person instead of online with friends or family members. This will keep your issues private.